Love Is Not Channeled Through Courtship

Love to others types is a natural tendency for humans. Because because love, human survival can be maintained. Therefore, Allah Ta'ala makes her a delight for the jewelry world and the heavenly host. Islam as a perfect religion has also been set up how to channel that love of nature in the Sharia that rahmatan lil 'alamin. However, what if love is channeled through means that are not shar `i? The phenomenon that is sweeping most of the young people today. Distribution love their style commonly referred to as courtship. Here are some reviews of Islamic law regarding dating.
Approaching Zina Prohibit Teachings of Islam
Allah Ta'ala says,
ولا تقربوا الزنا إنه كان فاحشة وساء سبيلا
"And come not nigh to fornication; fact that adultery was a heinous act. And an evil way. "(Surat al-Isro '[17]: 32)
In Jalalain said that the prohibition in this verse louder than words 'Do not do it'. This means that if we approach adultery should not be, let alone to commit adultery, is clearly more restricted.
Ash Syaukani in Fathul Qodir said,
"If any intermediary to something forbidden, of course, the goal is also unlawful intent seen from the conversation. '
Judging from the words of Ash Syaukani this, then we can conclude that every path (intermediary) to adultery is forbidden. This means looking at, shake hands, were together and form other acts committed with the opposite sex because it is as an intermediary to adultery is forbidden.
Islam Ordered to Subduing views
Allah commands Muslims to lower his gaze when looking at the opposite sex. Allah Ta'ala says,
قل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم ويحفظوا فروجهم
"Say to the men - men who believed:" Let them glances and maintaining his cock. "(Surat An Nuur [24]: 30)
In this follow-up to this verse, Allah also says,
وقل للمؤمنات يغضضن من أبصارهن ويحفظن فروجهن
"Say to the believing women:" Let them glances, and the cock "(Surat An Nuur [24]: 31)
Ibn Kathir when interpreting the first verse above says,
"This verse is a command of God Almighty to His believing servants to subdue their eyes from the things forbidden. Do not they look at what is permissible except for them to be seen (ie the wife and mahromnya). Let them also beat the view from the things forbidden. If indeed they suddenly see something that is unclean by accident, let them gaze turned immediately. "


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When interpreting the second paragraph above, Ibn Kathir also said,
"The Word of God (the meaning)" Say to the believing women: let them beat their views' that let them subdue than what Allah made unlawful by looking at someone other than her husband.
Therefore, the majority of scholars argue that a woman should not look at other men (other than husband or mahromnya, pen) both with lust and without lust. More ... Some scholars argue about bolehnya saw another man without lust. "
So what if we do not intentionally look at the opposite sex?
From Jarir ibn Abdillah, he said,
سألت رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - عن نظر الفجاءة فأمرنى أن أصرف بصرى.
"I asked the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam about the view that only briefly (not intentionally). Then the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam commanded me so I immediately turned my gaze. "(Narrated by Muslim no. 5770)
Avail of his gaze, Allah as revealed in the letter An Nur verse 30 (which means) "that will make for greater purity for them" is to cleanse his gaze would be more careful and more people keep religious believers. This was said by Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him-when interpreting this verse. -May we are permitted by God to subdue the view that the heart and holiness of our religion is always awake-
God order the woman to close her nakedness
Allah Ta'ala says,
يا أيها النبي قل لأزواجك وبناتك ونساء المؤمنين يدنين عليهن من جلابيبهن ذلك أدنى أن يعرفن فلا يؤذين وكان الله غفورا رحيما
"O Prophet, tell your wives, daughters and wives of the believers:" Let them extend their scarf to the whole body. " That is so that they are easier to be recognized, therefore they are not alone. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Surat al-Ahzab [33]: 59)
وقل للمؤمنات يغضضن من أبصارهن ويحفظن فروجهن ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا ما ظهر منها
"Say to the believing women:" Let them hold his views, and his cock, and they do not show her jewelry, except for a (regular) appear thereof. "(Surat An Nuur [24]: 31).
Based on the interpretation of Ibn Abbas, Ibn Umar, and Atho 'bin Abi Robbah that which may be revealed is the face and both hands. (See Al mar'ah Al Hijab Muslim, Amr Abdul Mun'im Salim)
Religion Islam Forbid tandem with the Opposite Sex
From Ibn Abbas, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,
لا يخلون رجل بامرأة إلا مع ذى محرم
"Let not a man alone with a woman unless with mahromnya." (Narrated by al-Bukhari, no. 5233)
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,
ألا لا يخلون رجل بامرأة لا تحل له, فإن ثالثهما الشيطان, إلا محرم
"Let not a man alone with a woman who is not lawful for him because actually Shaytan is the third person in between them unless the joint mahromnya. (Narrated by Ahmad no. 15,734. Shoaib Shaikh Al Arnauth said this hadith shohih ligoirihi)
Shake Hands with the Opposite Sex Including Prohibited
From Abu Hurayrah radi 'anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,
كتب على ابن آدم نصيبه من الزنى مدرك ذلك لا محالة فالعينان زناهما النظر والأذنان زناهما الاستماع واللسان زناه الكلام واليد زناها البطش والرجل زناها الخطا والقلب يهوى ويتمنى ويصدق ذلك الفرج ويكذبه
"Every son of Adam had been destined for adultery and is part of a certain case, it can not. Zina both eyes is to see. Zina both ears to hear. Oral is to talk adultery. Zina hand is touching (touching). Adultery is the stepping leg. Zina heart is with the desire and daydream. Then kemaluanlah would later confirm or deny such. "(Narrated by Muslim no. 6925)

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An-Nawawi Syafi'iyyah a great scholar-said,
"The meaning of this hadith is that the children of Adam has been set piece for adultery. Among them was a form of adultery that essentially put the unclean genitals to genitals. In addition there is also a form of symbolic fornication (figure of speech) is to see something that is haram, hear things relating to adultery and the result, or did the woman touching ajnabiyah (woman not his wife and not a mahram) to her or kiss her; or also walk with his feet toward adultery, looking, touching, or speaking with a woman forbidden ajnabiyah and various examples such as this: it could also imagine the heart. All of this is kind of a symbolic adultery (figure of speech). Then pubic later that would justify acts before or deny it. This means that there is an essential form of adultery is adultery with pubic and some are not essential to exclude the pubic pubic, or close to it. Allaah knows best "(Sharh An Nawawi 'ala Muslim)
If we look at the above hadith, touching the opposite sex, who is not his wife or mahram-termed adultery. This means touching the opposite sex is a forbidden act because by kaedah usul 'if something else is called to something haraam, then it suggests that the act is unlawful. "(See Taysir ILMI Usul Fiqh, Abdullah bin Yusuf Al Juda'i)
Reviewing Dating Phenomenon
After our presentation above, if we review currently dating phenomenon there must be acts prohibited above. We can see that this form of dating can approach adultery. Originally beginning with the first eye. Then view it settles in the liver. Then comes the desire to walk together. Then the two-duan bold in a quiet place. After that come into contact with a partner. Then proceed with a kiss. Finally, as a proof of love is evidenced by adultery. Naudzu billahi-forbid-min. Then the door where again the width and space closest to the door exceeding adultery dating?!
Could there be an Islamic dating? Indeed, the court made today even labeled with 'courting Islamic' could not avoid the prohibitions above. Think about this!
 Impossible There are Islamic Dating
One of the leading missionary once asked, "By the way, once the father with the mother, that before marriage, what was dating?"
With diplomacy, the preacher said, "Dating like what it used to? We used to be dating, but dating in Islamic. Well, how to do? We also often walk to the recreation, but never hide alone. We also did not have a baseball-baseball, kiss, hug, let alone-wal 'iyyadzubillah-adultery.
Nuance thinking like that, it seems not only belong to the preacher. Many among the Muslims who still held the view that it was going fine, as long as it keep yourself each. The phrase is like the phrase, "Mandi must, just do not get wet." Phrase is essentially intangible. Because dating itself, in whatever sense people understand today, is not justified in Islam. Except if you just do the vow (see the bride before the marriage, accompanied mahram), it is considered as courtship. Or at least, so termed. But it really is perancuan term. The term courtship was kadong understood as a more intimate relationship between the two lovers, who applied to go out, streets, exchanging letters, SMS was fun, and a variety of other things, which is clearly inserted by a lot of things forbidden, such a view haram, haram shadows, and lots of other things that are contrary to the Shari'a. If then there is an Islamic term dating, as well as imposing the term, Islamic meneggak liquor. Perhaps, because it was in tenggal liquor in the mosque. Or adultery are Islami, the Islamic gambling, and the like. If there are certain activities that kosher, then the Label the names of these unlawful acts, clearly terlelu forced, and not at all helpful. (Taken from the book Silk Asmara, Ust Abu Omar Bashir)
Courtship Affects Love of God
Ibn al-Qayyim explained,
"If people are being hit romance is told to choose between favorite idol with a fondness God, surely he would choose the former. He missed more than a lover's encounter with the meeting with Allah the Almighty. More than that, her mind to stay close to her lover, more than a desire to be close to God. "
Courtship After Marriage is Best
Islam that has been perfectly set up relationships with the opposite sex. This relationship has been set up in the holy Shariah marriage. Marriage in Islam is also not true that begins with courtship, but by knowing the character of a potential mate without violating Shari'a. Through this marriage will be felt and different intrinsic romance dating love just love crap.

From Ibn Abbas, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,
«لم نر للمتحابين مثل النكاح»
"We never know the solution for two people who love each other such as marriage." (Narrated by Ibn Majah no., 1920. Said shohih by Shaykh Al-Albani)
If you have not been able to get married, hold themselves to fasting. Shallalahu Prophet 'alaihi wa sallam said,
من استطاع الباءة فليتزوج, فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج, ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم, فإنه له وجاء
"Whoever is able to marry, then marry. Because it's going to lower his gaze and guard over the pubic. Anyone who is not able, then fasted for fasting is like a gelding. "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)